You know when you’re a kid and you think that adults have all the answers? They have life totally figured out and you picture in your mind what you’ll be like as one? Maybe a teacher or a fire fighter? And then you hit your “young adult” years when you are totally invincible and right about everything. Not disrespectful to your elders, but just so proud of the person you think you have become and internally tuck other’s advice in your back pocket to look at sometime around never! And boy, were you wrong when you hit adulthood and realized you knew absolutely nothing back then. You were a fresh eyed baby deer and probably annoyed the crap out of people who had more life experience and wisdom than you!
I was 21 when I met my husband. I was about to enter my senior year of college and was dating a 30yr old who was working his tail off to build a business. We were on two completely different playing fields to say the least. He was stable and I was anything but! After a few years we were engaged, married, raising our fur baby and then looking at a positive pregnancy test. Everyone around me was a stay at home mom and so I thought that this is what I was meant for. It would be awesome. I would have my babies and teach dance for fun. I was at the top of the staircase, my person peak of the mountain. My husbands life was “set” and I was going to fit into it like a puzzle piece. I had my adorable baby and life was good; I was content. That’s when I met CS. I don’t know what brought CS and I together besides fate (and Etsy), but I’m so glad it did. When the first inkling of working together popped into my mind I surprised myself with how quickly I picked up the phone and suggested we do this thing. I don’t remember even thinking twice about it. Where did that come from? I never imagined myself starting a business, though I will never forget my college entrepreneurship professor telling me I wrote the best business plan he had ever read. I just thought I wrote a really good paper, but maybe, just maybe I had something deep down inside me that was waiting for the chance to jump out on the phone with CS that day. When we decided to start our business it was intended to be a “hobby”, but let’s be honest, if I was going to do it, I was going to make it the best damn thing I knew how and that’s when I realized I had an unbelievable passion to do it all, but I had no idea what I was doing.
I thought adults were just supposed to have it all figured out remember? They got to a certain age and voila, their brains were filled with all the knowledge they needed to last until old age. They should automatically know how to take care of babies and grow businesses right? It should all come naturally right? Wrong. How did I not realized that we could ALWAYS learn and grow as a person, and frankly we should. What’s the point if we plateau at some point and remain that obnoxious, naive know it all? Or if we remained okay with “content”. We’re not going to get any better if we aren’t willing to learn, change & grow.
I truly feel like I’ve learned more in the last 5yrs than I had in the 26 before that. It seems like a blur honestly, and though I do partially blame a thyroid condition and college for my lack of memory, I believe I’ve had a major perspective shift. My mindset has changed completely and I couldn’t be happier for that. I used to want to be right, now I’d rather be the dumbest person in the room so I can learn from others. I used to talk in absolutes and now I allow for a lot more grey area because you can truly never say never. For goodness sake just last year CS told me to listen to podcasts and I adamantly told her that I could NEVER live without my music. And while I still can’t live without my music, I equally can’t live without my podcasts. I now see failures as a way to grow and get better. I used to want to be at the top of the stairs, the peak of the mountain. Now I want to look up and see a never ending staircase and look down and reflect on what’s brought me this far.
So here’s to all of our experiences, our journeys, our mistakes and our never ending will to get better and be better. May we all avoid making assumptions, giving opinions when they don’t matter and speaking in absolutes. May we listen more, take ownership of our words/actions, swallow our stubborn pride and choose to be better than we were before. Our journey is up to us. There is no point in our lives that we should ever stop investing in ourselves! Let’s choose to be better.